Breaking up is never easy - Your 5 step guide to resigning from your job

It is said that all’s fair in love and war but what about your job?  Are there rules you should follow?

As it’s Friday I thought I would firstly share a light-hearted story I read last weekend about a canny Yorkshire lad who resigned with a condolence card which read so very sorry for your loss“.  A cool story that generated over 300000 views on Twitter.

Over the years, I have coached hundreds of candidates through their resignation process.  It has often felt like being a parent/adult figure helping a teenager through a high school break up – loads of should I’s, what if’s, tears, and even can you do it for me?!

So how is it best to tackle this?

Step 1:  Understand your motivations for leaving

Is the person you’re thinking of breaking up with not the one? 

Probably the most important question you should ask yourself is: why leave your current role?

Such an important decision should never be taken lightly and not be based on anything petty like a colleague helping themselves to your cereal box, or the coffee isn’t so great.

My dad always told me “better the devil you know than the devil you don’t”


Step 2: What does the potential role provide that your current one doesn’t?

It’s kinda like writing a pros and cons list for your current friend and potential new one – like the scene out of Friends where Ross has to decide between Julie and Rachel.

A wise Manager always told me there are 4 things to consider about the job you are moving onto vs your current role:

  • Company
  • Role
  • Location
  • Salary package

Step 3: Speak to a family member or close friend

Before moving on and resigning, it is always wise to consult someone that you can trust not to go and start a game of Chinese whispers.

Ambition can be blinding, therefore receiving impartial advice can provide reassurance you are making the right decision.  

It is also important to consider everyone that may be affected by the decision.  I have been involved in scenarios where moving the pet dog was enough to put a halt to resigning.


Step 4: Know your legislation and read everything in your current contract

The person you are breaking up might have rules such as you’re not allowed to hold hands with certain individuals or ‘go steady’ (or whatever kids call it these days) with others.

I know a candidate who resigned and missed the part in the contract, which stated if you resign within x amount of time of completing any training the company has paid for, you will have to be pay it back in full.  This left the candidate in an awkward position, where the person had to rescind their resignation and continue working, with everyone in the office knowing the person wanted to leave.

If you work in a sales type role, you should also take note of non-competes and in some circumstances consider legal advice before leaving. 

If you get paid bonuses, you need to know whether you are paid these after resigning.  It’s important to note that if you share such information with your new employer before being accepting, you may put yourself in a strong position to negotiate a sign on bonus.

Do you have long term shares in the company?

Know your notice period.  Generally speaking, a notice period can range from 1-3 months for a full-time role in the UK, whilst some depend on the length of your service.  This should be shared with your potential employer before any negotiation is made.

Step 5: Contact me to help you through your resignation process,  arrange the best exit terms, and negotiate your new salary package and contract terms

The only experience I have in high school break ups is through listening and providing advice to my nieces and nephews.

Professionally, I have helped hundreds of candidates in the UK and Europe resign and negotiate the best terms before accepting a new role.

Get in touch now to discuss your career and book a Consultation.

Have a great day everyone,

Dave Crumby

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